When people say, "I can do hard things," I don’t doubt that you can. But my question is—why would you want to? Why would you choose struggle when there’s an easier way? Why wouldn’t we want to find the fastest way through life’s challenges with ease and flow?

We are not here to do hard things just for the sake of doing them. We are here to experience, to learn, to grow, and most importantly—to enjoy the ride. Struggle may be part of the journey, but it doesn’t have to define it. The idea that life must be hard to be meaningful is a limiting belief we need to release.

Breaking Free from the Roundabout of Struggle

If you find yourself trapped in the same cycles of difficulty—whether in relationships, career struggles, or self-worth battles—it’s time to ask yourself, "Why am I still in this roundabout?"

Life gives us endless opportunities to grow, but we weren’t meant to stay stuck in patterns that drain us. When you recognize that something isn’t working, you have a choice. You can either continue spinning in circles or you can exit the roundabout and move forward.

The Power of Awareness

For the first 40 years of my life, I stayed in the roundabout of my mother’s beliefs about love and self-worth. She constantly told herself (and us) that she was unlovable. And because of that belief, she lived a life where love never truly reached her. But I refused to accept that story as my own.

Yet, even though I rejected her belief, I still found myself attracting relationships where love felt conditional or unattainable. Why? Because I had not yet made the conscious decision to exit that cycle.

Leaving a roundabout isn’t always easy. It often involves dismantling deeply ingrained beliefs and stepping into the unknown. It may mean ending relationships, changing careers, or redefining who you are. But the moment you allow yourself to break free, the real transformation begins.

Hard Things Don't Have to Be Hard

We all experience tough times. But when we allow resistance to take over, we make things harder than they need to be.

When I hit rock bottom—lying on the floor of my rented apartment, feeling like no one in the world knew or cared that I existed—I had a choice. I could stay in that space of despair, or I could choose to see it as a turning point.

I chose to seek answers. I chose to stop struggling and start flowing. I asked God daily to show me my purpose. I spent months reading, journaling, praying, meditating, and learning how to trust the process.

And through that, I discovered one of the most powerful truths of my life:

We don’t have to do anything we don’t want to do.

Yes, we all have responsibilities. Yes, we need to work, pay bills, and take care of ourselves. But when we shift our mindset and start aligning our actions with what we actually want to do, everything becomes easier. Work doesn’t feel like work when you’re doing what you love. Responsibilities don’t feel burdensome when they align with your purpose.

The moment we let go of the idea that struggle is necessary, we open ourselves up to an entirely new way of living.

Finding the Flow

So, how do you stop paddling upstream and start flowing with life? It starts with recognizing resistance. If something feels hard, stressful, or overwhelming, pause and ask yourself:



• Is there an easier way?
• Am I holding onto old beliefs that no longer serve me?
• What would it look like if I approached this with ease?

The truth is, life is not meant to be a constant uphill battle. When you learn to let go, trust the process, and lean into what feels good, everything changes.

Exiting the Roundabout: Your Next Step

If you’re stuck in a cycle that no longer serves you, it’s time to take your power back. Exiting the roundabout doesn’t mean you won’t face challenges—it means you’ll face them with a new perspective, one that allows you to move forward instead of staying stuck.

Remember, you were never meant to struggle your way through life. You were meant to experience joy, expansion, and ease. The faster you recognize this, the faster you’ll find yourself exactly where you were meant to be.

If you need guidance on breaking free from limiting patterns, I offer 1:1 coaching and a mentorship program for women who are ready to live life from a place of freedom and alignment.

Everything changes when you see yourself the way God sees you—through the lens of love, ease, and limitless potential.

Are you ready to exit the roundabout? Let’s make life easier—together.

Reach out to me at tersafordcoaching@gmail.com and let’s talk about how you can step into the life you were always meant to live.

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