January is a big month for many people. It's the season of resolutions, goal-setting, and making big changes. But what if I told you that February is actually a better month to start pursuing the life you truly want?

As a coach, I've seen a pattern: People wait until they feel stuck, frustrated, and completely exhausted before they realize something has to change. It’s only when dissatisfaction reaches its peak that they start searching for answers. But here’s the thing—your real desire is often much bigger than what you think you want!

Are You Really Open to Receiving What You Want?

Life is constantly guiding you toward what your soul truly desires, but sometimes, you're gripping onto control so tightly that you’re blocking yourself from receiving it.

Imagine this: You want more financial stability, so you hustle harder, work longer hours, and push yourself to the limit. But deep down, your heart is asking for something else—more rest, more time with your family, and more freedom. Yet, you keep chasing the money, believing that’s the key to freedom.

But what happens? Your body burns out, your business takes a downturn, or life throws a curveball that forces you to stop. Suddenly, you’re left with no choice but to rest. And in that moment, you realize that’s exactly what you wanted all along—time to slow down, time to heal, and time to be present with your loved ones.

This is how life works. When you’re resistant to change, life finds a way to give you what you need, even if it feels like everything is falling apart.

The Real Reason You Feel Stuck

If you feel like you’re constantly navigating challenges—whether it’s a toxic relationship, a lack of money, career dissatisfaction, or the feeling that you’re spinning in circles—it’s not about the external situation. It’s about what your soul is calling you to do.

Your brain, or what I like to call ControlZilla, is wired to seek safety. It looks for problems, overanalyzes situations, and creates resistance because it’s afraid of change. But your soul? Your soul already knows what you need. It’s not confused. It’s just waiting for you to listen.

The Patterns That Keep You Stuck in the Roundabout

Think of life like a roundabout. Have you ever noticed that some people stay stuck in the same cycles over and over again? Maybe you’ve been in the same kind of relationships, the same financial struggles, or the same emotional patterns for years.

If you don’t recognize the bigger desire behind your struggle, you’ll stay in that roundabout forever, missing the exit that leads to true transformation.

For example:

• If you’re constantly struggling in relationships, maybe what you truly desire isn’t just love—it’s deep, unconditional self-worth.
• If you feel unfulfilled in your career, maybe your real desire isn’t just a better job—it’s the freedom to express your creativity and passion.
• If you’re burnt out from always doing too much, maybe what you actually want is permission to slow down and trust that life will support you.

When you stop resisting what life is trying to teach you and recognize the deeper desire beneath your struggles, you’ll finally see the path to the life you’re meant to live.

Breaking Free from the Old Stories

Many of us carry old stories from childhood that keep us trapped. Maybe you were taught that success only comes from hard work, so you feel guilty when you rest. Maybe you were raised in a family where love had conditions, so you keep chasing external validation.

These stories shape how we live, but they are not the truth. The truth is that you are worthy of joy, ease, and fulfillment right now. You don’t have to prove yourself to deserve happiness.

What Happens When You Finally Let Go

When you stop gripping so tightly and open yourself up to what life is offering, everything shifts.

You start aligning with opportunities that feel effortless. The right people show up in your life. You experience deeper peace, greater clarity, and more fulfillment than you ever imagined. You become the person who looks in the mirror and says, "I love being me."

And that’s where the magic happens.

If you’re ready to stop struggling and start thriving, DM me on Instagram at teresaford.coaching or email me at teresafordcoaching@gmail.com  for more details.

The life you truly want is waiting for you—it’s time to say YES to yourself!

Your journey starts NOW.

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