The PITT-falls of Manifesting Desires

How to Stop Standing in Your Own Way

Manifesting is all about bringing our desires into reality. We want more happiness, purpose, and freedom in our lives. We crave growth and expansion because, at our core, we are built to evolve. But here’s the challenge—sometimes, we get stuck. We hold ourselves back with limiting beliefs, self-doubt, and unnecessary fears.

Today, we’re talking about the pitfalls of manifesting—specifically, the PITT-falls of manifestation. PITT stands for Perpetual and Intentional Thought-Induced Torment—the mental patterns that keep us trapped in hesitation, fear, and lack.

Are You Holding Yourself Back?

If you've ever found yourself overthinking, stuck in analysis paralysis, or assuming things won’t work out before you even try, you're not alone. Many of us create mental barriers based on past experiences, societal expectations, or personal fears.

I recently had a conversation with someone who was highly intellectual but struggled to take action. This person was brilliant, analytical, and deeply thoughtful. But they admitted that they often found themselves thinking, thinking, and thinking some more—without actually doing. The result? They stayed stuck, uninspired, and frustrated, watching opportunities pass them by.

Why do we do this? Why do we talk ourselves out of good things before we even give them a chance? It comes down to our thought habits. If we believe something won’t work out, we begin looking for evidence to support that belief. And guess what? We find it. Our minds are wired to reinforce what we already think is true.

Your Brain Wants to Keep You Safe (But It’s Holding You Back)

The amygdala, the part of your brain responsible for processing fear and emotions, loves to keep you in your comfort zone. If you’ve ever felt an intense emotional reaction to something new, that’s your amygdala scanning the past for similar experiences and trying to “protect” you from potential harm—even if that harm isn’t real.

If you once failed at a job interview, a business venture, or a relationship, your brain will automatically reference that past failure whenever you think about trying something similar again. It’s like a warning system: Hey, remember how bad that felt last time? Let’s not do that again!

The problem is, this survival mechanism doesn’t distinguish between real danger and perceived danger.

• Real danger: Running into traffic, touching a hot stove, or ignoring your intuition about a truly toxic situation.
• Perceived danger: Taking a new job, starting a business, speaking on stage, or opening yourself up to love again.

The second category isn’t actually dangerous—it’s just new. But our brain doesn’t always recognize the difference.

My Own PITT-Fall Moment: How I Almost Missed My Opportunity

I remember when my family was on the brink of financial disaster in 2008. We were nearly homeless, and I had been a stay-at-home mom for 15 years. No college degree. No resume. Nothing that made me feel “qualified” for the workforce.

One day, I was out driving, desperately searching for work, and I saw a “Help Wanted” sign in a gym window. Immediately, my brain went into full-blown PITT mode:

• You haven’t worked in 15 years.
• You don’t have a degree.
• You’re not even fit enough to work in a gym!
• Who do you think you are?

I sat in my car, crying, digging myself deeper into my mental pit. Then, something shifted. I asked myself, What’s the worst that could happen if I just walked in?

I dried my tears, grabbed my hastily written resume, and went inside. I got the job on the spot. The position required me to do something completely outside my comfort zone—greet customers loudly when they walked in. As an introvert, this terrified me. But when I finally did it, something amazing happened. People smiled. They waved. They felt seen. And suddenly, I wasn’t focusing on my own fear—I was focusing on making others feel welcome.

This job changed the trajectory of my life. It led me to personal development, fitness coaching, and eventually, transformational coaching. But I almost missed the opportunity because of my PITT-fall thinking.

Are You Digging Yourself Deeper?

When we let fear, self-doubt, and overthinking take over, we are literally digging our own pit. The longer we stay in this mindset, the deeper the hole becomes. Some of us grew up in families where doubt and limitation were common, so we learned to dig our pits early in life. But here’s the truth:

➡️ You have the power to stop digging. ➡️ You have the power to climb out. ➡️ You have the power to change your story.

How to Stop the PITT-Fall Cycle

1. Change Your Language

Instead of saying, “This always happens to me,” try “This is happening FOR me.” Just shifting from “to” to “for” changes the entire meaning and brings you into a state of empowerment.

2. Challenge Your Fear-Based Thoughts

Ask yourself: Is this actually dangerous, or is it just uncomfortable? If it’s uncomfortable, that means you’re growing. If it’s dangerous, trust your intuition and step back.

3. Do It Afraid

Courage isn’t about not feeling fear. It’s about taking action despite the fear. You don’t have to wait until you feel completely ready—you just have to take the first step.

4. Focus on What You Want, Not What You Fear

If you’re fixated on not being broke, not being alone, or not failing, you’re manifesting more of that. Shift your focus to abundance, love, success, and fulfillment.

5. Stop Waiting for Permission

You don’t need external validation to go after your dreams. You are the only person who can give yourself the permission to live fully.

Final Thoughts: Get Out of Your Own Way!

Manifesting isn’t magic—it’s alignment. You are meant to grow, expand, and thrive. But you have to get out of your own way. Stop overthinking. Stop digging deeper into doubt. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and step forward into the life you’re meant to create.

It’s time to stop the perpetual and intentional thought-induced torment.

It’s time to start living.

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