Love Misplaced - How to feel SO loved!

In this blog, we dive deep into the concept of misplaced love—looking for love in all the wrong places and aligning with external sources for validation. It’s a common struggle that many of us face, spending our energy in relationships, work, and external validation. But what happens when we neglect the most important relationship—the one with ourselves?

What Is Misplaced Love?

We all have relationships with different people—family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, and even our pets. But the biggest relationship that often gets overlooked is the one with ourselves. We constantly give love and energy to others, seeking validation, approval, and acknowledgment. But if we are not careful, we might end up giving away so much of ourselves that we feel drained and unfulfilled when love is not returned in the way we expect.

The problem arises when we attach our self-worth to how much love and attention we receive from others. If love is not reciprocated in the way we expect, we end up feeling rejected and abandoned, as if our love is wasted. The key is realizing that love, true love, starts from within.

The Star Trek Analogy: Standing in the Beam of Love

To illustrate this, think of the famous "Beam Me Up, Scotty" moment from Star Trek. Imagine standing in the beam of light that takes you back to the safety and love of your "home." If you're waiting for others to stand in the beam for you, it's a recipe for disappointment. You cannot rely on others to hold your light for you. You must stand in the beam yourself, aligned with your own love, knowing your worth, and trusting that others who are aligned with the same energy will join you.

Misplacing Love and Energy

Misplaced love can also manifest in the way we over-attach to people, things, and animals. The example of a woman whose love for her cat led to deep sadness when the cat left her serves as a perfect illustration. Her love was dependent on an external source, and once that source was gone, she felt lost and unworthy.

But here's the truth: You are love. You were created from love. You have the power to love yourself first, and then, naturally, love will flow into your life. Love isn’t something that comes from others or external circumstances. It comes from the source, from within.

The Importance of Self-Love and Understanding Your Worth

If you find yourself looking for validation or expecting others to fill your bucket of love, you’re relying on a limited source. You’re digging in the dirt for water when you could be drawing from an endless well. That well is your connection to your higher power, your true self, and the love that is available to you at all times.

Where Do You Get Your Love?

True love is abundant. It is limitless. If you constantly seek love externally, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. But when you connect with your inner source, you begin to feel loved without needing others to validate it. You start to operate from a place of self-love, and when you give, you do so without expecting anything in return. Giving becomes an act of self-expression, not a transaction.

How to Avoid the Cycle of Misplaced Love

• Check your sources: Are you seeking love and validation from people who are on the struggle bus themselves, trying to figure out their own worth? Stop relying on others to fill your bucket.
• Reclaim your energy: Focus on building a relationship with yourself and your higher power. Stand in the beam of your own light. Trust that love will flow into your life when you are aligned with your true self.
• Give freely: When you are full of love, give it away freely without expecting anything in return. Love is abundant, and it flows without depleting you. It’s the greatest work you can do.

Final Thoughts: Love Is an Inside Job

The ultimate lesson here is that love comes from within. It doesn’t depend on others or external sources. When you learn to fill your own cup, you will feel truly loved. So, stop searching for love in the wrong places. Be the love you seek. Go to the source—your higher power, your true self—and watch as love flows effortlessly into your life.

Let’s stop relying on others to give us the validation we crave. Instead, let’s stand in our own beam of light, connected to the source of endless love.

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