How To Let Go of Resistance - Answering a Listener's Question

The Question:

I recently received a question from a listener after a consultation. She asked, “I’m listening to your podcast and it resonates with me, but I’m currently pushing on the pull door and operating from a place of fear, not love. How can I recondition myself to stay true to what I feel I want and need?”

What an amazing question, right? I love how actively engaged my listeners are with the podcast. They’re really digging deep to get to the root of their challenges, and I couldn’t be more excited to help.

Understanding the Pull Door Analogy

Let’s start by breaking down the pull door analogy. Imagine a little kid trying to get into the School for the Gifted, but instead of pulling the door, they’re pushing on it. They’re struggling, sweating, and just getting frustrated because the door won’t open.

The door isn’t the problem—it’s their approach! It’s simple: the door says pull, but they’re pushing against it.

That’s how we do life sometimes: we push against things, trying harder, but it feels like we’re getting nowhere. The door’s right there, it’s ready to open for us, but we just aren’t doing it the easy way. When we stop resisting and let go, it opens with ease.

Why We Push on the Pull Door

In life, we push against what we don’t want—whether it’s fear, frustration, or doubt. We try to force our way through situations, hoping to get what we want.

But when you push on a pull door, you get stuck. You start thinking thoughts like, “I want this, but I can’t have it,” or “I want things to be different, but they’re not.”

When we operate from fear, we feel like we have to force things, make them happen, or settle for what we think we should do because everyone else is doing it.

But fear keeps the door shut. Love opens the door.

The Fear of Letting Go

Here’s where it gets tricky: letting go of fear feels like losing control, and we often fear the unknown. But if you just pull on the door instead of pushing, you’ll realize that you’ve had the power all along.

When we operate from fear, we ask questions like:

• What if I mess up?
• What if I lose something?
• What if I fail?

But the truth is, fear makes us think we’ll lose something, and we’ll have to accept something we don’t want. In reality, what’s on the other side of the door is better than you could imagine. Love opens the door, and it opens you up to opportunities you never thought possible.

Love Opens the Door

Love is the opposite of fear. When we love ourselves, we trust the process, we trust God, and we allow things to unfold naturally. When you let go of the resistance, the door opens effortlessly.

For example, think of a time when you were pushing hard for something, trying to control the outcome. Maybe it was a relationship or a career move. You were holding on too tightly. But when you let go and just allowed things to happen, they started to flow.

Releasing Control

A fear-based mindset says:

• If I push harder, I’ll get it.
• If I just try harder, everything will work out.

But it doesn’t. It’s exhausting. Eventually, you’ll step back and realize that the easiest way is to let go, breathe, and trust. You have the ability to take action in love and clarity, not fear.

The Story of My Financial Struggles

I remember a time when my family faced financial hardship. We were living paycheck to paycheck, struggling to make ends meet, and I had this overwhelming fear that we’d be homeless. I resisted it, I fought it, and all I did was create more stress and anxiety.

One day, I reached my breaking point. I went out into the woods and yelled at God, “Just do it already, make us homeless. Stop teasing us with this fear!” And guess what happened? I let go. That moment of releasing fear was the exact moment when everything started to change.

I finally found a job, and it wasn’t glamorous or what I expected. But it opened doors to even better opportunities. What I thought was the worst-case scenario turned out to be a stepping stone to something better.

Stop Worrying About What You Might Lose

Fear tells you that you’ll lose something if you take action, but you won’t. You’ll gain what you need. You’ll gain clarity, confidence, and a sense of alignment with your true purpose.

The door you’re pushing on is only closed because you’re not letting go. The moment you pull, you’ll find the way. It’s like that jar lid you can’t open. You try, try, try, and then you realize you were twisting the wrong way. When you let go and try a different approach, it opens effortlessly.

Embrace Change

You can’t control everything. You can’t force the outcome, but you can trust the process. Welcome the change, and do what feels aligned with you. The moment you stop fearing change and start embracing it, your life starts to flow.

You don’t have to have it all figured out right now. You just need to start pulling instead of pushing.

Final Thoughts: Let Go of Fear, Let Love In

Love is what will open the door for you. Love gives way to what is, and it removes resistance.

When you’re pushing on the pull door, you’re fighting yourself, your dreams, and your happiness. Let go. Stop worrying and trust that the door is already open for you.

Trust yourself, trust the process, and trust the love that’s guiding you to where you need to be.



The door is open. It’s time to walk through it.

Takeaway: You’re not here to control everything or force the door open. You’re here to pull. Let go of fear, operate from love, and watch the doors to your life open effortlessly. Don’t push, just pull.

Note: You can access the full blog content in audio versions on Spotify and YouTube. Happy listening! 🎧 

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